In my five years with my husband, I have learned that the most underrated gift is sharing how you feel. Telling the person you love why you love them and how much they mean to you can become a last priority. Whether you’re in the very beginning or you’ve been together for decades, it can seem like simply being with the person you love is enough to show them how you feel.
When it comes to gift giving, simply saying how you feel can seem cheap or too small, but I’ve figured out that sometimes it means more than you could ever know. Everyone wants to be loved and when they are loved, there are still going to be moments where it may not be as obvious. Moments where life happens or you simply forget to remind them of all the reasons why you love them.
So if you’re not sure what to get someone or you just want to get something really special, don’t forget that the most important thing you can give is love and acceptance to the one you care for most. Reassurance that, even in the ups and downs, you care for them and reminding them that you see all the little things that make them the wonderful person they are.
SIMPLE VALENTINE’S GIFTS
A JAR OF ALL THE LITTLE THINGS
The little things may seem so unimportant. Maybe you feel like you say it too much or that it’s just too obvious or cliche that it’s not even worth saying. Let me tell you, the little things are still nice to hear.
Each person is made up of all kind of little things. Maybe they have a specific smell that you can’t get enough of. Maybe there are details in their face that are unlike any others. When you sit down and really think about all the things that make a person unique and loved by you, you’ll find that the little things may not be so cliche. Yes, you may find your loved one beautiful, but this is all about the things that make them beautiful inside and out.
I think this is a gift that keeps on giving. Anytime your person feels down or needs a little extra love they can turn to this jar for some words of affirmation. It’s a simple way to make them feel extra special anytime they need it.
HOW TO MAKE IT
All you need is paper and a jar. I used an old Prego spaghetti sauce jar and paper from around the house.
You can make a label for it if you want. Maybe include a nickname, a poem, something to set this jar apart from the rest. My label simply says, “Dingus, I love you. Dingus, I do. Here are somethings I love about you.” (cause that’s our dorky nickname)
Then sit and write down all the things you love about the person you are with. Big, small, one word, ten sentences. Whatever comes to mind.
Cut out each thing and fold it up.
You can add to it over the years or just let it be a capsule of how you felt in that moment (I put the year on my jar but I may add to it every once in a while).
But not just a plain old love letter. Maybe one or two of those, but I’m talking love letters for special circumstances. Something you can write for them to open in specific moments. Not letters for them to read all right away, but for the moments when they truly need a little extra love.
I know for me, when things get busy or times get tough, I’m not always the best at reminding my husband that he is loved. Again, it’s one of those things you assume they know and think they understand, but there are so many moments where our loved ones may need a little more affection than we, or even they, think.
So for these letters, I have a few ideas of times when our significant others may need a little extra support. Moments where we may not be emotionally capable of portraying how we really feel. Moments where they may be feeling down and just aren’t quite ready to talk about it yet. Any moment that could occur where some kind words from us written in a moment of pure admiration is just what they need.
IDEAS FOR LOVE LETTERS
I like to include a “one for now” letter so they have something to open immediately. Just a quick little, “Here’s your gift and some nice things about you.”
Ultimately, you know your person the best and you know yourself the best. You know the moments that can occur where you may become unavailable and the moments that come around where they need a little extra encouragement.
Keeping those things in mind, here are some ideas for letter you can write:
For when you’re sad
For when you’re mad
For when you need a boost
For when you’re feeling down
For when I’m not around
For when you need some love
For when you feel forgotten
For when things get busy
For when you’re feeling insecure
For when I’m being grumpy
If things get bad
THE TRIANGLE FOLD
If you want to fold them all fancy, here’s how I did it:
After you’ve written the letter, fold it in 3 “hot dog” style.
Starting from one end, fold one corner to the opposite side, making a triangle shape.
Keep folding, keeping edges taut, until you have a little left at the top.
Fold those corners to the middle to make a point and fold that under the flap to close.