With Valentine's Day coming up, I've been thinking a lot about the holiday. It's a day for two people in love to show just how in love they are. You go all out to try to top the year or occasion before. You have to be lovey and cute and there are usually gifts involved. It's basically like Christmas all over again, but for lovey dovey stuff. There's a lot of pressure for fancy dinners and candy and chocolate (okay, I'll take the chocolate). What I’ve been trying to figure out is, at what point does it change from celebrating love to celebrating the show of it all?

Ian and I typically avoid holidays. Partially because of budget and partially because we are terrible gift receivers. Not that we don't appreciate gifts, we just don't really keep what we don't need or want. That's not to say that we don't need Valentine's Day. It's not like we're perfectly lovey everyday. We definitely have days where we don't see each other or when we do we just space out at the TV. So I appreciate Valentine's Day. I appreciate the sentiment. I like the idea of having an excuse to celebrate us and the life we've made together.

For the sake of taking the pressure off, we’ve thought of ways we can engage with each other without the show of it all. Without spending money or bringing in more stuff to our home, these are all the ways we plan on making this outmost meaningful Valentine’s Day yet.


Talk about your goals.

It's never a bad idea to take a look at where you are and where you want to be. It's inspiring and motivational to take some time to focus on what you want from life. Simply starting the conversation can help you discover things about yourselves you didn't know and being on the same page will help you both to be a strong support system for each other which can motivate you to take steps to doing what you want to do!

Make a list of everything you love about each other.

Take sometime to think about why you are where you are and why you're with who you are with. And then tell them! Make it cute, put it in a jar, write it in letter form, whatever you want to do. Just remind your partner (and yourself) that you love them and why.

Here’s a print out to make a list of all the things you love about each other!

Dive into minimalism.

If you guys have been thinking about taking up the minimalist life, why not start on Valentine's Day? Honestly, going through our stuff and getting rid of what we didn't need was not only the most free we felt, but it actually brought Ian and I closer together. We realized how much we made our consumer life a priority and how little we made each other and our relationship a priority. Getting into minimalism seems like work, but it could be the very thing you need to bring yourselves closer than ever on this lovey holiday!


Whether it's making a new meal, starting a new project, learning a new skill, whatever you want, just do something new. Learning to do something together makes it feel like your very own. It becomes your thing that you did together and no one else can claim. Really bonding through learning or doing something that is new for both of you can create a memory that will bring you closer every time you think of it.

WRITE NEW VOWS (or set new priorities for your relationship).

It's easy to assume what your life is going to look like when you first get serious with someone. You feel like you know the over arching things you need to be for them and do for them, but thing can change. People change, life changes, your relationship is going to be a little bit different this year than it was the last, so make some new promises to each other to reflect where you are now. Show your significant other just how significant they are by making some new relationship priorities with them!

Do you and your person have any fun things you like to do on Valentine's Day? Let me know in the comments!