My birthday was this month and it was a big one. At least, I’d count 25 as a milestone. I am officially halfway through my 20’s and I can now rent a car. It’s pretty big stuff happening over here.
I feel like I’ve experienced a lot in my 25 years on earth. I still have a lot of growing and learning to do, but I can definitely say that this is the first year that I kind of know what I’m doing.
That settled feeling comes for everyone at different times, but for me, 25 is the number. It’s the year where I feel like I am most myself and I’ve gathered the tools that I need to keep moving forward in life confidently. It’s a new feeling for me. Most of my life I’ve felt extremely lost within myself. Always searching for answers that seemed impossible to find.
Like most any human, I’ve struggled through heartbreak and that coming of age moment where you realize how much is out of your control while also realizing how much you still have to learn before you’ll feel like you’ll have control of anything. Figuring out where I fit in socially and what I really need from others. I’ve consumed myself with my own experiences and feelings at some points and forgotten myself to make others happy at other points.
I’ve been through moments of complete and total loneliness that felt like they’d never end and moments of pure admiration and love all around.
I can’t say I’ve found the ultimate secret to happiness, but I’ve definitely found the path that works for me.
Not every moment is perfect, but I can certainly say that, for the first birthday ever, I’ve found peace and I know for sure that I am right where I need to be.
A FEW THINGS I’VE LEARNED
You can’t change what other think, feel, or do. The only thing you can control is how you respond to it.
If someone wants to be around you, they’ll make it happen. If they don’t, take the hint and move on.
If you want to be around someone, make sure they know it.
There isn’t one right formula for life and success. Don’t assume your way will work for someone else and don’t feel bad when someone else’s way doesn’t work for you.
Follow the path of least resistance. If you find you can’t move forward no matter how hard you try, you’re probably going the wrong way.
Put your phone down more. The people who choose to be around you deserve your presence.
It’s important to be kind to everyone, but no one should get special treatment unless they earn it.
You are the only person who can control your happiness. If you give that power to others, you’ll never be happy.
Don’t play mind games. Just be direct.
Honesty will get you very far, just be aware of what is really worth sharing.
Conflict is one of the best ways to grow. The people who really care about you will care about working through most anything.
It’s helpful to have a good understanding of your values and to live by them unapologetically.
Learn to be happy alone. No matter what, you’ll always have moments where you need to entertain yourself.
Every relationship is a two way street. Make sure you give as much as you take and get as much as you give.
Don’t assume others know what you need. You are the only one who can make sure you’re getting it, so don’t be afraid to ask.
Boundaries are important. Only you can know what your boundaries are and only you can make sure they’re communicated properly.
It truly is better to wait before you react. Cooler heads will always prevail and the only way to truly change the world is to offer love and acceptance. .
Remember, you don’t have to be responsible for other people’s actions. You’ll drive yourself crazy playing “Mom” to the world.
If someone’s really bothering you, chances are they’re bothering others too. Just stay calm, keep your distance, and let their actions speak for themselves. Getting involved will only bring you to their level.
Studying the basics of human psychology, body language, and why people are the way they are can only help you grow personally and understand others easily.
Your parents did they best they could. Just some people are better at it than others.
The sooner you get a handle on your finances, the better.
Honesty with others is nice, but honesty with yourself is crucial.
Family is neither a right or an obligation. You deserve to surround yourself with people who lift you up.
Take good care of your skin daily and learn to be comfortable in it. Youth won’t last forever, but you can preserve natural beauty for a lifetime.