AIRSTREAM UPDATES: THE BOYS ROOM

I’m going to be honest, I wasn’t sure we’d actually pull this off.

I was determined to have two separate areas, one for each boy. I believed we could do it, but when going into a project you’ve never done before, it’s hard to be sure. There was construction that needed to be done. We had a model to work off of, but we weren’t always able to use the exact same materials so there were moments where we had to get creative and make our own design.

We started with one bed platform and a closet. We ended with two platforms and no closet. We had to find a way to gracefully remove the closet system and build a bed platform over a wheel well that looked similar to the adjacent platform that, admittedly, looks much more professional than what we wound up making. Even still, I’m so proud of the work we’ve done. Proud of the work Ian has done especially.

BEFORE

AIRSTREAM PROGRESS: THE BOYS ROOM - This Wild Home

So here is how this section looked when we bought the airstream. Our renovation is a bit weird because we bought an already renovated airstream. We’re not really doing anything to the airstream because it needs to be updated. It’s mostly just modifying it to meet our specific needs. As beautiful as it is, we just couldn’t think of a good sleeping solution for our two boys that didn’t involve getting rid of this storage.

So we ripped it out! It involved learning about rivets and getting involved in a project without rushing. We typically choose to just start and then go about a process haphazardly, but this time we took our time so we wouldn’t rip any walls out or anything.

THE PROCESS

AIRSTREAM PROGRESS: THE BOYS ROOM - This Wild Home
AIRSTREAM PROGRESS: THE BOYS ROOM - This Wild Home
AIRSTREAM PROGRESS: THE BOYS ROOM - This Wild Home
AIRSTREAM PROGRESS: THE BOYS ROOM - This Wild Home
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AIRSTREAM PROGRESS: THE BOYS ROOM - This Wild Home
AIRSTREAM PROGRESS: THE BOYS ROOM - This Wild Home

Building that platform was our biggest project. We ran into obstacles, like the fact that we can’t hook up the airstream to any power source right now. So we started this whole project with our drill plugged into an extension chord that ran out to our car (ha!). That did not work (go figure). Then, we bought a cordless drill which helped a lot.

But then, we had all this wood we needed to cut. The hardware store would only do 2 cuts for us, but we needed like, 10. So we bought a hand saw…. and Ian sawed every little piece of wood you see by hand. He is truly a trooper and we couldn’t have done this without him.

So, somehow, we managed to build the storage under the bed. We had to make some adjustments once we put the unit in the airstream and realized our measurements were a little off. But we got it in there, we cut it down to fit, and then we went to buy the materials needed to secure the platform for the bed.

Only they didn’t have materials that matched what the previous owner had done to suspend the original platform over the wheel well. So we got creative and figured out our own design to keep the platform secure. We weren’t sure if it’d work, but the concept seemed to make sense in our minds and luckily, the execution seemed to be successful!

AFTER

AIRSTREAM UPDATES: THIS BOY'S ROOM - This Wild Home
AIRSTREAM UPDATES: THIS BOY'S ROOM - This Wild Home
AIRSTREAM UPDATES: THIS BOY'S ROOM - This Wild Home
AIRSTREAM UPDATES: THIS BOY'S ROOM - This Wild Home
AIRSTREAM UPDATES: THIS BOY'S ROOM - This Wild Home

So then for the painting. I have been dreaming of creating a room for my boys that I can really make their own. Something cozy and unique to us. Not just 4 walls with some photos hung up, but a real life, “I designed it all myself just for them” bedroom. I was a little overwhelmed with all my choices, but I think I was able to pull everything together in a way we’re all happy with.

I started out wanting wallpaper. I found a few really interesting designs that I thought would make the space fun for the boys, but when I started getting the pricing together and thinking through the logistics of hanging wallpaper for the first time in my life in the tight quarters of an airstream, I decided that dream may have to wait.

So then, I thought about painting some designs on the wall. Just some simple shapes to make it fun. Ultimately, I decided the most fun thing for them would be to keep it simple. To let their imagination and activities make the space fun rather than bold shapes to distract them from their own heads.

INSPIRATION

The Boys Room Inspiration - This Wild Home

So this is the style I’ve been gravitating towards. Very simple, very minimal, but with a touch of whimsical.

Now that the paint is in and the rooms are fairly complete, all that’s left is decorating which I cannot wait for. I’m really hoping to make the larger platform a more versatile space. A place where one of the boys can sleep at night, but during the day we can move the mattress to have more of a play space. I think it’ll come together nicely but I’m going to need to spend some time shopping first (darn).

Really, my goal is to make sure this looks complete when we move in. I don’t want to have a few pieces randomly scattered throughout the spaces. I really want for the boys to walk in and feel like it’s home. Like it’s their very own special space made just for them.

SAVE FOR LATER

Airstream Update: The Boy's Room - How we put a kid's room in an airstream. - This Wild Home
Airstream Update: The Boy's Room - How we put a kid's room in an airstream. - This Wild Home
Airstream Update: The Boy's Room - How we put a kid's room in an airstream. - This Wild Home

ARE PLAID BLAZERS A THING?

So I was on Pinterest, as I tend to be, and I realized I was seeing a trend.

I’m usually terrible at trends. I never know they’re happening until they’re halfway out the door, but I’m on it this time(probably)! Plaid blazers look like they’re making a comeback and I’m into it.

In high school, one of my most prized possessions was a plaid blazer I found from Urban Outfitters. It was my favorite thing I owned and I’m happy to see that this look is coming back around.

What I like about blazers is they add a sophistication to what you’re wearing. What I like about plaid blazers, specifically, is that they are still relaxed. They have a nice low key feel to them so while you can dress up, you never have to worry about being overdressed (which is my least favorite thing).

PLAID BLAZER STYLE BOARD

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It kind of seems like you can throw this bad boy on top of anything and look good. Whether it’s a mini skirt, a long dress, t-shirt and jeans, a sweater, you’re pretty much gonna be good to go.

I think what it really comes down to is, this is a piece you can have in your closet that will make anything you put on look a little more sophisticated. If you’re like me and you don’t want to think too much about what you’re wearing but you still want to look good, a plaid blazer is the perfect way to look like you know what you’re doing whether you do or not.

ARE PLAID BLAZERS A THING? - This Wild Home
ARE PLAID BLAZERS A THING? - This Wild Home

HOP ON THE BANDWAGON

So I’ve rounded up a few that I found that I think really embody the feel of this plaid blazer trend:

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Exploring The Plaid Blazer Trend: Are they in + How to style them - This Wild Home
Exploring The Plaid Blazer Trend: Are they in + How to style them - This Wild Home
Exploring The Plaid Blazer Trend: Are they in + How to style them - This Wild Home

MY QUICK TIP FOR RESPECTFUL PARENTING

A QUICK TRICK TO RESPECTFUL PARENTING - This Wild Home

After spending the better part of a year learning about and practicing respectful parenting, I’ve started to realize there are many ways to approach it, but it’s easy to forget that it’s okay to have your own way.

Something that’s been difficult for me to wrap my head around is all the language and the idea that every word you say will either impact your kids negatively or positively and if you choose the wrong word or tone, your kids will be effected forever.

Of course, I understand that we are going to effect our kids. We are going to effect them more than anyone else in the world and sometimes it’s going to be negative. No matter how hard we try, how much we study, we are going to mess up. Even if we never messed up (which is not a realistic expectation) our kids will still be negatively effected by something. They are humans with feelings and we are humans with flaws. There is no way out of that no matter how hard you try.

So moving on from that defeatist reality, I still believe that trying and learning is the best thing we can do for our kids. Attempting to effect them as little as possible is something I stand behind.

Acknowledging the whole child, treating them as human beings, being respectful, I agree with all of it. But I also agree with showing our children that we are whole humans. That we also need to accept our flaws and our humanity.

Acknowledging the whole child, treating them as human beings, being respectful, I agree with all of it. But I also agree with showing our children that we are whole humans. That we also need to accept our flaws and our humanity. - This Wild Home

Each of us is a unique person with unique way of communicating. Personally, I’m very direct. I don’t like to beat around the bush or sugar coat things and I don’t like hiding how I feel. I don’t think respectful parenting is ever about hiding yourself, but I do think that it’s so easy to get wrapped up in language and tone that it can become unclear what the true point of all this effort really is.

MY QUICK TIP

When you dive into respectful parenting, it’s easy to feel like you have to be more than human. Like you somehow have to control your emotions and put all of your needs and wants aside in order to be who you need to be for your kids.

This isn’t truly what respectful parenting is demanding of you. But the specific wording and tones that are suggested can feel a little overwhelming and a little fake if you treat it as a script to follow. So I wanted to simplify this. I wanted to find a way to make it less about the script and more about the intention.

A QUICK TRICK TO RESPECTFUL PARENTING - This Wild Home

ACKNOWLEDGE THE GOOD STUFF…

I think this is something every parenting style can get behind. We all want to see our kids be good as much as possible. It give us a boost, makes us feel like we’re doing everything right and you know, I think it should be celebrated when your child puts a dish away all on his own or decides to be sweet his brother “just because.”

A genuine acknowledgement of the good things your child is doing is always appreciated. The more detailed and specific you can be on your feelings towards the situation, the more meaningful it will be. (i.e. rather than just saying, “great job!” saying, “You kicked the ball to hard! You must have felt so strong!” Something that shows your genuine acknowledgement.)

I believe that any child appreciates being seen. They don’t necessarily want to be acknowledged for negative actions, but they will turn to that if they are finding that their negative actions are the only ones that bring genuine feelings out of you. By making sure you’re acknowledging the good stuff, big AND small, in a genuine way, you’re making sure that your child knows they are seen. Always.

The only thing I will caution against is using this as a TOOL to try and get your kids to always do good things. Children of all ages can see right through manipulation and it can backfire in the long run. Simply work on looking out for those tiny acts that bring genuine appreciation to you and use that to fuel your compliments. Manipulation is a one way ticket to a lackluster relationship full of resentment. And besides, should the love and appreciation you have for your child really be used as a tool for getting what you want?

…AND SUPPORT THROUGH THE BAD

This one is a bit more tricky. It’s one that I struggle with constantly. When I see my son doing something less than great, my defenses go up. I feel like I need to be the consequence by yellow or lecturing which never truly gets me the results I’m looking for.

I think this is the part that gets tough for anyone hoping to be more respectful in their parenting. Most of us were raised to believe that a child who is “misbehaving” MUST receive a consequence or else they won’t learn their lesson. I know I feel this instinctual need to pounce on any negative behavior I see from my kids. It’s SO HARD to move past those instincts. Especially when you read posts and books that give you such specific language and timing and tone to use. When you’re in the moment, it’s impossible to remember all of that.

So I want to simplify it.

When you see that little spout of misbehavior arising in your child, just be there. No, I don’t mean help them to act out this misbehavior. Just, stop what you’re doing and be there. Be authentic. Don’t follow a script. Just actively work on resisting your learned instincts to correct and just be there with them.

Be ready to grab a hitting hand. Ready to receive a much needed hug. Ready to fully listen and attend to the desperate screams your child is using to try to communicate however they can.

You may say the wrong thing, you may not do everything perfect, but you are doing the most important thing a kid could ask for: you are fully present.

You may say the wrong thing, you may not do everything perfect, but you are doing the most important thing a kid could ask for: you are fully present. - This Wild Home

Will this prevent future bad behavior? no. Will this encourage future bad behavior? I don’t think so. Will you walk away feeling closer and more confident in your parenting skills? absolutely.

You don’t need to walk away analyzing everything you said that wasn’t “in the book.” You just need to walk away asking yourself, “Were they seen? Was I there?”

ALWAYS BE YOURSELF

Respecting your child isn’t going to look the same in every family. Our personalities need to show. Our genuine thoughts need to be expressed. Our kids need to know they are getting their specific parent, not a carefully curated mom-bot.

It can be so easy to dive into the rabbit hole of Respectful Parenting and feel like you just can’t get it right in the moment. I’ve fallen into this trap far too often. I’ve walked away from confrontations feeling like I did everything wrong just because I didn’t say every single word exactly right. Because I said it my way instead of THE way, I really believed I did it wrong.

But I think our kids need us to be ourselves. If you’re like me and you prefer a light hearted “uh.. no” over “not right now, sweetheart” or “daaaaang, check that out! Look at all the colors!” over “oh! I see you used red in this drawing!” your kids need to see that. Otherwise, they may feel like they are treated differently than others or like they don’t get to know the real you.

I think the practices in Respectful Parenting are so valuable and I could not be more thankful that I’ve found this approach to parenting. But I also think it’s helpful to simplify it. Make it less about the words and more about the actions.

The basic principals are amazing to follow, but the most important thing to remember is to make it your own. Make it authentic. Make it uniquely you.

SAVE FOR LATER

A QUICK TIPS FOR RESPECTFUL PARENTING -This Wild Home
A QUICK TIPS FOR RESPECTFUL PARENTING: Becoming A More Authentic Parent -This Wild Home
A QUICK TIPS FOR RESPECTFUL PARENTING: Becoming A More Authentic Parent -This Wild Home