We’ve been very cozied over here with the baby and the toddler and all of the slow days we can get. We’re getting used to our new rhythm with a newborn and we’re slowly starting to feel normal again.

Honestly, I’d say it takes about a month to start feeling like a person after having a baby. You get used to the sleep deprivation and your newborn starts to get used to being in the world. Your body starts feeling much better and all in all, you have the ability to actually start doing some normal things.

The one thing that doesn’t change is how much your baby poops and pees. How messy their clothes get. How often you need to quickly access burp rags and things that you don’t always think to have on hand. All the little accessories that babies need is quite surprising given that they’re so little and can’t do much. But any sized human can make a mess and for newborn messes, you need a lot of supplies.

I put a little something together before my second was born. A cart to carry all of his stuff from one room to another with ease. It’s been one of the best things for these newborn days so I can have easy access to all the little things babies need.


It may not be the most amazing discovery in the whole world, but it sure has made our lives much easier. Like I said, I have a toddler to keep an eye on all day along with newborn duty (and also newborn doody). For the sake of not making my toddler follow me around the house all day, not having to coop us all up in one room, and not having to lug a baby all around the house, I decided I needed something that can move all of the things I need around with me.

So rather than get drawers or some kind of permanent storage for Charlie’s clothes, diapers, and other necessities that would make me have to run to his room every five seconds everyday, I opted to put together this cart. The set up isn’t too complicated. I had this cart lying around and realized that it’s three compartments would be perfect since I had about three categories of things I needed to keep with me.



At the moment, we’re a hybrid disposable diaper/cloth diaper family. We use the cloth diapers during the day and the disposable diapers at night.

So the top row has a few disposable diapers, since we only use a couple a night, and lots of cloth diaper inserts along with a few covers. The wipes will usually float somewhere on top of all that or just around the house since both boys need them. This way, anywhere my toddler is or anywhere we’re all hanging out, I can take the cart and have all my diapering necessities right there. I just have a designated diaper changing burp cloth that I’ll lay the baby on and change his diaper anywhere on the ground. (It works for now since we have carpet, but I may get a larger mat soon that isn’t quite as thin so we can still use that when we travel or on surfaces that aren’t already padded)

Any extra diapers or cloths we have stay in our closet so if we go through a lot in a day or get behind on laundry, there’s some back up there.



Babies go through a lot of clothes. There’s diaper blowouts, extreme spit-ups, and just general stuff that comes out of babies pretty much all day.

With all of that, and the fact that I didn’t buy my newborn his own dresser for his clothes, we keep his clothes on the cart to grab with ease if anything happens to them. It’s also nice to help keep the amount of clothes we get for him smaller. Babies go through clothes so fast that it doesn’t make much sense to me for them to have a ton of clothes for each stage. Just a few PJs and about a weeks worth of daytime outfits has worked great for us.



The bottom row is mostly just burp rags along with a hat, some socks, and any swaddles that aren’t in use.

Again, we try to keep a small amount of things for the baby because you can always just wash what you have. So we have a few burp cloths, only about 3 pairs of socks since they always fall off anyway, one hat, and two swaddle blankets. It’s so nice to be able to grab a burp cloth without having to scramble around. Or a swaddle when the baby gets fussy and we’re desperate for something to keep him calm.

So that is the newborn cart! Super convenient and easy to put together. Also, surprisingly easy to keep organized!



I don’t know for sure, but if I had to guess this is the number one question parents have. What can I do to ensure my children will hear me and listen to me? The frustration of saying “no” and seeing a blank stare as your kid continues to do that thing you don’t want them to do is very real. It’s honestly infuriating and I have searched high and low for any advice I can find to get through those trying times.

I have been in many positions where I thought to myself, “If I locked him in his room he may think twice next time.” or “If I yell louder, just for a little scare, he’ll stop.” It is extremely tempting to bring in those severe consequences because it really does feel like the only option sometimes.

But if there are any parents who feel that guilt, that sense of this is feels off, when implementing these extremes, I am here to say, there is a better way to say no. There is totally a better way and it’s a way that you and your child can walk away from feeling proud and connected from any difficult situation that comes your way.

It seems impossible or gimmicky. On the outside, what I am going to tell you may sound like I am saying, “Let your kids do whatever they want” but I’m not.

In fact, setting boundaries, carrying out consequences, and being a leader for your children is so important for all of this. It is important that they learn to trust you to set these boundaries and stick to them no matter what may come their way.


This is not necessarily an easy approach to take. Removing severe punishments from your home and implementing more respectful and peaceful ways of handling the tough stuff takes a lot of work for us parents. There are some things we have to let go of, standards we have to change within ourselves, and behaviors we need to redefine. There are so many opinions around kids who don’t listen, kids who get upset, and kids who are not exactly “normal.” We think of them as bad. It makes us think we’re bad when they engage in these behaviors. It’s embarrassing and we’ve been taught that these things need to be nipped in the bud ASAP.

So before you can even begin to effectively say “no,” you first need to let go of a few things in order to find confidence and assurance in yourself and your choices. That confidence will help you maintain this connection with your kids, even when people are watching (or worse, judging).


  • TANTRUMS ARE NOT BAD | A big thing people say “no” to are tantrums, crying, etc. Those yucky reactions that express pain, discomfort, or unhappiness. So many of us have been taught to hide those very feelings and push them as far away as we can. We’ve learned that crying in public or being visibly upset is not polite and should never be seen.

    I understand it’s stressful and it feels so wrong when your kid gets loud and upset. If it happens in public, in front of people looking at you, the pressure is on to quiet them down immediately, however you possibly can.

    But kids are going to get upset. They NEED to feel safe in expressing that. If you want them to trust you and listen to you, you have to trust that when they express their feelings, they are expressing them the only way they can and exactly the way they need to. Besides any physical responses to emotions (hitting people or destroying things), I encourage you to start letting your kids express their emotions as loudly and passionately as they need to whenever you can. If you’re in public, simply take them to a more private spot. But no matter what, your life will be much easier if you allow them to cry or yell or whatever they need until they don’t need to any more. (If they insist on hitting, give them a pillow and let them know they can hit that as much as they want. They just can’t hit people.)

    Their feelings may seem silly or small, but they are very real to our kids so please let them have them. Tantrums are really just the only way kids know how to express what they’re going through.

  • THEY’RE ALLOWED TO BE MAD AT US | Similar to above, we also need to allow our kids to tell us when they are upset about a boundary we’ve set. If they want a cookie but you don’t think it will be good for them in that moment, definitely let them know they can’t have the cookie, but then let them be upset about it.

    If you’ve ever wanted anything in your life, you know it’s disappointing to not get it. What’s even more disappointing is not being able to vent about it. So let them vent. Let them be upset. It’s good for them to release those feelings. They need it. No, they don’t need the cookie and they’re not being bratty by getting upset about it. They need to be able to tell you they are upset about your “no.”

  • THEY’RE NOT ALWAYS GOING TO LISTEN | If you really think about, it’s not a kid’s job to listen. It’s their job to learn and with learning comes some pushing. They are suppose to push your boundaries as hard as they can in order to gain that security that you’re in charge and that you know what you’re doing. They need to push so they can feel free to explore and learn knowing that you are there to set the boundaries they so desperately need from us. Their lives are in your hands and they are fully aware of that so they want to make sure they can trust you to keep them safe.

    So just know, they’re not always going to listen. They won’t always have the control to do so. They will sometimes have urges that are stronger than your rules and in those moments, they need understanding, compassion, and help to control those urges so they can learn to listen.

  • BUT THEY TRULY DO WANT TO MAKE YOU HAPPY | While I don’t believe it’s effecting to use your emotions, approval, disapproval, etc. as consequences for a child’s actions, it helps to know that deep down, even when it doesn’t seem like it, they do love us and they want nothing more than for us to love them back and be happy with what them.

    Kid’s have very strong emotions. They have strong desires that drive them and these desires take turns at the forefront of their minds. They always have a desire to please us, but sometimes their desire to draw on the wall is stronger. In those moments, the worst thing you can do is make them feel like their actions can have any effect on your love for them. Showing them that you’re disappointed only sends the message of, “it’s possible for me to love you less.” Which truly will only make them push harder or worse, shut down their own desires all together and submit to your every word.

    In every choice you make with your kids and how you handle them, always remember the number one thing they need from you is love and acceptance. This should never be a tool to use when they’re not listening. This should be a constant that never changes no matter how many boundaries they push.

I think changing your mindset towards certain behaviors is really what it takes. Realizing your kid isn’t a bad kid and understanding that these behaviors are normal and very expected helps to keep your nerves at bay when handling these tough situations.

All of that being said, here are some tips to saying “no” in a way your kids will listen.


  • SET YOUR BOUNDARIES BEFORE YOU GET FRAZZLED | I think a big issue when disciplining kids is that we wait until we’re angry to finally intervene. We say “no, no, no, no” over and over again until finally we’re mad enough to go over and take extreme action.

    The reality is, we should be taking action the first time we say “no” and we should be saying no long before we’re mad. We should be actively involved in the interactions, not shouting half-heartedly across the room. If you can find a way to calmly put yourself in close proximity to your kid, it will send the message of, “Oh, mom’s serious. Maybe I should stop.” Without ever having to be harsh, create fear, or cause pain to communicate your boundary.

    So the next time you see your child doing something that is dangerous or that you simply just don’t want them to do, calmly walk over. Be ready to kindly and calmly hold their hands to help them from touching or hitting something or to remove the thing that is dangerous or off limits altogether.

    This is the best way to not only effectively communicate what you want, but to also show your kids what self control feels like. To give them an example of how to stop themselves in the future.

  • TRUST THAT THEY UNDERSTAND YOU | No matter how old your child is, no matter how developed their speech may be, they get it.

    Something that I think a lot of people don’t realize is that their kids understand so much of what they’re saying long before they seem to. They understand when you’re telling someone a negative feeling you have towards them. They understand when you’re proud. They understand when you don’t want them to do something. They’re not dogs that can only comprehend simple commands. They’re human beings who are learning, but who know more than they can express.

    I encourage you to speak to your kids as if they’re five. Better yet, as if they’re another adult that you are asking a favor from. An adult who may be currently destroying your living room in a fit of extreme play, but still an adult who deserves the respect of full sentences and compassion. As an added bonus, add a please and thank you. After all, your kids are learning how to talk by how you talk to them. If you bark orders and simple commands at them with no amount of curtesy, they are learning they can do the same in the future.

  • WORK ON YOUR PHRASING | The way you phrase your requests really can make or break how your child responds. It’s important that you are as direct, clear, and confident as possible. Thing’s like “we shouldn’t” “mommy doesn’t like” etc. only creates a disconnect in the situation. It gives them an out. With these types of phrases you’re giving them the opportunity to say, “maybe WE don’t but I do.” And saying “mommy doesn’t”rather than “I don’t” can create a divide where “Kid” and “Mommy” are two characters in a story rather than you and your child engaging in a learning moment together.

    Two things you can say to replace the simple “no” are:
    - “I won’t let you...”
    - “I can’t allow you to....”

    It takes emotion out of it, it’s not vague. It is a direct, realistic comment on what you can and can’t let your child do. Keep it simple and short while still giving them the respect of a full sentence. This, along with being physically present and ready to stop a hand from grabbing or hitting, will really go a long way. I promise, even if you don’t think they can, they will understand and appreciate this so much more than just saying, “no.”

  • DON’T ALWAYS ASSUME THEY HEAR YOU | Did you ever have a moment when you were young where you were fully engaged in something and all of a sudden your mom was in your face yelling at you, super upset about something? Odds are, she’d already asked you five times and you didn’t hear her.

    When kids get into something, they become completely engaged. Everything they see, hear, think, and do is all in the activity in that moment. So when you say across the room, “I need you to…” “I can’t let you…” There is always that chance that they literally don’t hear you.

    When you’re talking to your kids, the best chance of getting them to hear you and listen to you is to be physically near them, maybe lay a gentle hand on their back, and calmly say the thing you want them to hear. It will save you a lot of grief if you realize they’re not intentionally ignoring you, but that they simply don’t hear you.

    Honestly, I can’t tell you how many times a simple whisper has been far more effective than a distant yell.


If you try all of this and they still won’t listen, try and take a breath. Remove anything that could be dangerous, step back and ask “why?”

Is your child hungry, tired, in need of a diaper change, overstimulated, under-stimulated, effected by your mood? Have you gone through a big change recently? What in their world could be causing this behavior?

Sometimes kids use their rebellion as a way to express a bigger emotion that they just don’t know how to express. Kids don’t always know how to say, “I’m tired.” So instead, they’ll play with things that are off limits, throw food on the floor, hit you, yell at you, etc.

When you realize that the “why” is much more than a simple test of boundaries, you can start to try and determine what they need in order to give it to them. Even when they are adamantly insisting on not listening, I still don’t believe punishment is the answer. Is it really fair to punish them for asking for something they need in the only way they know how to?

So when they’re truly infuriating, look around, look at them, look at the time and see what they’re really trying to tell you. Sometimes it’s as easy as handing them a cracker and sometimes it’s as tough as needing to have a big tantrum to get out some emotions they’ve been holding onto.

I encourage anyone who’s looking for another way to say “no” to try this for a day. Just one day to see if it could work for you and your family.


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So it’s my second time being postpartum and I’ve got to say, I’ve learned a lot on caring for myself, even when it’s hard to.

I’d say the biggest struggle is the postpartum body. It’s in pain, it’s worn, it sags, and it really doesn’t feel like your body will ever look as good as it did before you started having kids.

Basically, to me, going from a pre-baby body to post-baby body is like having an attractive, nice boyfriend that you have trouble loving because of all his “flaws” and then breaking up with him to find that, compared to the rest of the dating pool, his flaws weren’t so bad and having to find a way to fall in love with a less attractive, not quite as nice guy.

Maybe it’s a weird analogy. Maybe it sounds really superficial, but that’s how it feels to me. You go through all your teen years, maybe even early adulthood, acknowledging all the flaws in your young, unworn body. But it’s not until you take it to hell and back that you finally realize that yes, it can get much worse.

I’m sure this all sounds terrible. I know it’s important to appreciate all bodies, especially your own. While I think it’s an amazing concept that helps me to feel fairly positive about my body these days, I also think it’s OK to acknowledge that there are negative things about a postpartum body and it’s OK to grieve your old body and want to do everything you can to feel good in your new one.


Ranting aside, when I got pregnant the first time around, I in no way prepared for the reality that my body wouldn’t go back to “normal” for a long time, if ever. I imagined I’d bounce back in a second and my body would be exactly the same. I didn’t prepare for a little pouch of skin that will seemingly never go away. I didn’t prepare for my boobs to sag like they’re 80 years old. I didn’t prepare to have stretch marks from my stomach to my thighs that will forever look like someone came in and ripped my skin to shreds and glued it back together again.

You just don’t think about all of that when you’re planning on creating a human life. You’re a little more focused on the whole creating a human life part.

But the second time, I was prepared. I prepared for the absolute worst and because of that, I was able to go into my postpartum life knowing that I would need to care for myself and love myself no matter what. I have been able to create an admiration for the body I now possess and help myself to feel comfortable in this new skin.


From the actual healing that you need to do physically to the emotional healing of exhaustion, becoming a mother (again, if you already have kids), and losing the body you never fully appreciated; it takes effort to love your postpartum self. From the day your baby is born, it is so important to remember to care for yourself as much as you can. You have very little control over what your body is doing, what your baby is doing, and how your time is spent so when you get a few moments to take control, it’s extremely valuable and should be used wisely.

  • STOCK UP | Before baby even arrives, make sure you’re all stocked on some basic essentials.

    • Pads - super jumbo ones, just in case.

    • Adult Diapers - seriously are a dream that first week so you can hold in all the stuff you need to use for healing.

    • Hemorrhoid Things - witch hazel pads, cream, whatever sounds best. But definitely don’t skip this. I’m embarrassing myself now to save you later.

    • Nipple Cream - if you’re planning on pumping or breastfeeding, this is a real must. Your boobs will hurt and crack and bleed and this is amazing for soothing all of that.

    • Breast Pads - you will leak for a couple of months and these will help you to avoid ruining all of your shirts.

  • TAKE ME TIME | You’d think this would be obvious, but it can be hard to feel like it’s okay to take time for yourself after baby is born. I know I feel guilty sometimes that I don’t want to sit and watch my baby sleep all day, but I mean, come on. Babies are cute, but not look-at-them-24/7 cute.

    When you get the chance, take a bath, watch a TV show, write in your journal. Whether you wait for baby to fall asleep or you pass baby off to someone else, make sure you’re getting some good me-time in.

  • ENGAGE IN RETAIL THERAPY | This is probably weird advice coming from a self-proclaimed minimalist, but I believe there is a time and place for retail therapy and it is when you’re postpartum.
    You’ve just spent the last nine months slowly watching the number of clothes you fit into shrink down to only a select few. You’ve spent at least a month or two with only a handful of things that are actually comfortable to wear, and now you have at a few months (at LEAST) until your body is sort of normalish.

    Girl. Get you some clothes that make you feel good. Just do it. Whether it’s leggings that hold everything in or a shirt that covers your engorged boobs perfectly or the coziest sweater you’ve ever put on your body. Just get something that makes you feel good.

  • INVEST IN YOUR BEAUTY | Sorry if I sound like a shallow broken record, but making yourself look good helps you to feel good. Especially at a time when it’s hard to feel like you look good.
    Schedule an appointment at a salon. Get yourself some masks, cleansers, and moisturizers that make you feel luxurious. Take time every morning to get yourself ready. Like really ready. Like make-up, hair done, and a cute outfit ready even if you have no where to go. It gives your day purpose and you, confidence.

  • EAT HEALTHY, MOSTLY | It’s really tempting to stick to all freezer meals and take out, but it really doesn’t make you feel good. You’ll feel heavy and drowsy at a time when you already feel sleepy and bloaty.
    It’s not easy making food when you’re getting used to a new baby, and I’m not saying everything needs to be amazing, but a smoothie here and there can go a long way.

    But also, if you’re like me, you may have felt really guilty anytime you gave into an unhealthy pregnancy craving. But now, besides your breastmilk, there’s no baby to share with your body anymore so definitely indulge in all those yummy treats you didn't have when you were pregnant.

  • GET INTO A ROUTINE | It’s kind of hard at first to make your day normal, but after a few weeks your baby should start to know the difference between night and day, you should be much more confident with feeding, and your baby will naturally start to fall into a rhythm.
    When this happens and you start to feel like things are normal, think about everything that’s important to you to do in a day and start making a routine that includes all of those things.

    For me, I like getting ready. I like making my meals. I like a clean house. I like downtime. So that’s what I focus on in my day. I don’t make perfect meals, I’m not always dressed to the nines, and my house isn’t always spotless, but it’s a start. I do what I can when I can and having it happen around the same time everyday helps with that a lot.

Babies don’t have to take over your life. Your dreams and goals don’t have to change just because you have a baby. You can still be your own person. While there’s a learning curve with getting your life on track after having a baby, the best way to make everyone happy is to make sure you’re doing what you need for you. Right now, baby only needs food, diaper changes, and a safe place to sleep. They need love and attention, but not all of the love and attention we have. Some of that still has to stay with you.

After all, how can we love another if we don’t truly and fully love ourselves?

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